Therapy For Narcissistic Abuse
Hyper Criticism. Blame-shifting. Manipulation.
When Relality is Weaponized Against You.
You bring up a legitimate concern—with respect, seeking a constructive resolution. But instead of accountability, you’re met with shock, defensiveness, or feigned confusion. Your boss, partner, spiritual leader, or parent stares at you like you’re speaking a foreign language, as if they cannot fathom how you could reach such an awful conclusion about them.
You know who you are. You’re confident, self-assured, and don’t let others control how you feel. But this person has a way of making you second-guess yourself. Suddenly, your confidence wavers. You feel small. Powerless. Wrong.
And then—somehow—you find yourself apologizing.
You may have had thoughts like...
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- “I am going crazy”
- “I feel alone and vulnerable”
- “I feel like I am walking on eggshells"
- “Maybe I did something wrong...Maybe it really is my fault."
Welcome to projection—where you are coerced into taking responsibility for someone else’s flaws, emotions, and wrongdoings.
You try to hold them accountable, but suddenly, you are the problem. Your boss shifts blame, criticizes, or flat-out ignores the issue. He can’t be wrong. In fact, not only does he refuse to admit his mistake—he now blames you for it.
Gaslighting kicks in. Confusion sets in. You feel guilty, ashamed, and start wondering if you really are being too sensitive, too difficult, or even less spiritual than you should be. Maybe, just maybe, they’re right about you.
Gaslighting: The Art of Twisting Reality
The term gaslighting originates from the 1944 psychological thriller Gaslight, in which a husband manipulates his wife into questioning her own sanity by dimming the gaslights in their home and denying that anything has changed. Over time, she begins to doubt her own perception of reality, losing confidence in herself.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person distorts facts, denies reality, or shifts blame so convincingly that the victim begins to question their own memories, judgment, and even sanity.
Emotional game begins
The Silent Punishments & Hollow Praises
And if you don’t comply? You’re met with:
Silent treatment—your existence is erased.
Alienation—conversations happen around you, but never with you.
Love-bombing—empty praise, designed to pull you back in.
Patronizing control—spoken to like a child: “Oh, darling, you can be included… if you behave.”
You learn that the only way to maintain peace is to tiptoe around them.
Triangulation & Smear Campaigns: Turning Others Against You
And if you resist? The punishment escalates.
Your boss, partner, or leader strategically excludes you from conversations, isolating you. They start whispering to others, carefully planting seeds of doubt about your character. False narratives spread like wildfire. Suddenly, you’re the difficult one. The disloyal one. The crazy one.Meanwhile, your abuser gathers a team of enablers—“flying monkeys”—who blindly follow orders, attack you, and reinforce the smear campaign.
Flying Monkeys: The Blind Enforcers of Abuse
The term flying monkeys comes from The Wizard of Oz, where the Wicked Witch commands her winged creatures to do her dirty work—attacking, intimidating, and terrorizing Dorothy on her behalf. In abusive relationships, flying monkeys are the enablers who serve the narcissist’s agenda, whether out of fear, loyalty, or self-interest.
They spread lies about you. They enforce the abuser’s control. They make sure you remain isolated, unsure of who to trust. It’s a well-oiled system of control, whether in a family, workplace, church, or community. And the narcissist dictates the “truth,” bending it whenever it suits their needs—all under the guise of protecting the organization, the family, or the faith.
Why Do We Stay?
If you’ve read this far, you’ve likely experienced narcissistic abuse. You may even still be in it. And you may be wondering:
"Why do I put up with this? Why haven’t I left?"
Because you’ve been conditioned to believe:
"It’s all my fault."
"I caused this."
"I am to blame."
So, you keep trying. You work harder. You walk on eggshells, hoping they’ll change. But they don’t. Instead, the cycle continues—love-bombing, devaluation, discard, repeat—until you’re drained, lost, and doubting your own reality.
But Here's the Truth:
You can’t change them. You never could. And deep down, you know that. What you can change is yourself.
Are you ready to understand why you suffer the way you do? To explore the parts of you that say yes to toxicity and no to what’s truly right for you? To learn how to trust yourself again?
It’s Time to Break Free
If you’re ready to reclaim your reality—to find your way back home to yourself—we’re here to help.
You may feel alone now, but you don’t have to go through this alone.
Let’s take that first step together.
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We’re looking forward to helping you take the first step
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